Ministering to Ministers (Sticky post)

The statistics are almost unbelievable.

Today’s ministers are dealing with complex issues that were never covered by a seminary course. They are very isolated when they run into pastoral, family, or personal difficulties . Seeking assistance is taboo. It puts credibility and competence on the line.

Christ told Peter that he would be lead to places he did not want to go. Christ told the followers to shoulder the burden of the cross. I am sure that he did not mean that those called to work in the vineyard to do so without the help of the community of faith. Far too often, ministers find themselves in the position of those sent to into the Master’s vineyard only to be beaten and abused.

You are a gift and blessing to the body. This blog is a place where you discover options for your situations and dialog with others in ministry as virtual mentors.

I lift up my eyes to the hills from whence comes my help.

Book Burning

To stand while books burn tears at the heart. When the Library at Alexandria burned, the greatest treasury of human wisdom vanished amid the flames. In the days before Gutenberg’s press the burning parchment destroyed knowledge. The human spirit abhors the conflagration of books.

In the Jewish tradition, books containing sacred works are never intentionally destroyed. When a book becomes too tattered and faded for further use it is lovingly placed in an area of reposed to allow the forces of nature to turn it into time’s ashes. In Christianity, there runs the tradition of laying sacred texts into the ground. In Gainsville, Florida text considered sacred to 1/5 of the world’s people will be cast into the flames of fear and hate. And the act is called “Christian” and the flames called “freedom of speech.”

All attempts by people of faith only re-enforce the fervor. The books will be burned. The voice of the One teaching stories of the traveling Samaritan and preaching sermons of the Divine import of loving the other and the enemy is silenced.
We fellow Christians stand around wringing our collective hands hoping for civil intervention. From whence cometh our help.

The Father preserved the beloved son of Abraham, Ismail, when hate drove him from the faithful. The Father blessed him with the promise of many descendants. The Almighty provided Ismail water from a rock and shade from sburning desert sands, a great mercy He would later bestow upon the Children of Isaac during the time of Moses. The sons and daughters of Ismail became one of the 3 great tribes of the Book.

We cannot pour the waters of compassion on this book-burning fire. We can only stand with those whose look upon the burning of their sacred text in their grief. This cannot be merely an intellectual affirmation. We must show that we, too, feel the pain of loss and shame. We must do the unthinkable. If one book sacred to sons and daughters of Abraham must be consigned to the flame, so must they be all.

We must burn our scripture. We must build bonfires and cast our bibles into the flame. It is an act of defiance not unlike that of Christ’s overturning the tables in the sacred precincts of the Temple. Believers were causing hardships to other believers for the motives of personal gain and ego. Christ’s action that day as he wielded the rope and released caged animals stopped the offering of continuous sacrifice to the LORD. No atonement could be made that day. No blessings could be bestowed. No praise could be lifted up. The spiritual life of a people was caused to stop by the brash action of a traveling Rabbi. Later that week an ineffectual government official bowed to the pressures of priests allowing an innocent man to undergo a horrific death. He, too wrung his hands at his perceived lack of authority in the matter before him. He asked for a bowl of water.

We, as followers of Christ Jesus cannot ask for the laver of inaction. For upon our response rests the lives of innocent men and women. We must suspend our spiritual practice of honoring the book which contain the words of our atonement, blessings and praise. For on that day, it must join in the flames and become one in the sacred ash. We must petitions our Gainville brothers and sisters to be our voices and build pyres in sight of the bonfire of hate -altars of sacrifice to raise up the smoke of holiness beside Cain’s altar of Iniquity. The Almighty will pour His blessings upon our actions. He will remove the deadly scorpion’s sting from an act meant for evil. And we will confirm that we are His dear compassionate children walking in the path of His Beloved Son.

The Unforseen Attack

You will never see it coming until it is too late. The best defense is almost constant vigilance. It is an attack by a cyberstalker or a cyberbully. All it takes is someone who feels slighted by you. The incident may be so slight that you do not even know something was amiss. The power of transference is strong. You become a very passive victim, until the damage is done.

Just one small posting and the ripples spread out at the speed of cyberlight. A person with a rudimentary knowledge of accessing the vast mine of the internet’s personal information storage can find remote family members, former classmates, far-flung colleagues, former bishops or denomination leaders. And the initial contact to these people could come as a innocently as a person expressing concern for mental health or your well-being. A concern that certain posting or discovered interaction seems to indicate a cleric under extreme stress. Then the system kicks in and you haven’t a clue why.

You practice safe ‘net surfing. However, consider the internet presence that develops without your active input. Congregation newsletters. Copies of sermons posted for access by the housebound, Local paper articles on church activities. Family members posting photos of the last family gathering. Birth and death announcements. The ones who mean to do you harm don’t even need your entire name. The puzzle pieces are too easy to tease out from knowing your denomination and church location. Using a nom de plume for recreational blogging or for participation in discussion groups offer little protection. Underlying identities can be discovered with a bit of personal knowledge and the ability to see commonalities and patterns, even if the two puzzle pieces are obscure as a first name and a state. If the cyberstalker or cyberbully is not adept at using search engines, they can pay a small fee to an enterprising information company to ferret you out. If you frequent or participate in sites which may raise moral questions, the danger to your career and your family’s welfare is grave.

To make it a bit more difficult for a cyberstalker or cyberbully to attack you:

  • Do not participate on any site that is inappropriate for a ten-year old.
  • Be jealous of your photographic image. In a very real sense, these images can rob you of your soul.
  • Whenever you engage with another person on the internet, realize there is no confidentiality on the internet. The world is watching over your shoulder.
  • Never use the email address attached to your internet service provider on websites. Obtain a gmail, Yahoo, hotmail email account. Use a moniker for the email address, such as “reply-inbox@”
  • Periodically perform a search on your online and personal identities.
  • Sign up for online applications such as “Google Alert” which notify you if your name is posted on the internet.
  • There is starting to be legal protection against these reputation destroyers, but that coverage is still sketchy and apply only after the attack has been made and the ripples move across the internet in ever widening circles.

    If you should be victimize, follow the advice on the National Center for Victims of Crime
    site.
    Click Here.

    If you are obsessed with certain types of internet sites, please get professional assistance. Better working with a therapist than explaining to a denominational or church board committee.

    Never Another Pat

    Richard Sipe on Priests’ Sexuality

    Pat was a good priest. His parish flourished. The congregation grew. More families were attending Mass together. At his funeral, all the meeting spaces at the church complex were packed. The fortunate ones could gather and grieve in the church, in the presence of the diocese hierarchy. The others participated through the lens of the video feed. Few knew that it is very possible that Pat died of AIDS.

    This is perhaps the last “secret” to receive publicity. Not only did innocent children suffer (and are suffering) to protect the Roman Catholic Church from scandal, the hierarchy is seeing its priests die rather than risk the disclosure that would come with providing treatment. These priest get the “parish” shuffle instead of the life-saving medical attention they need. The stress placed on a HIV-impaired immune system is often fatal before the signs of full blown AIDs are visible – or the priest leaves the Church to die on his own.

    These priests are not sexually promiscuous, but their partners may be. They may believe their partner’s false sentiments of sexual fidelity. They may believe it to the point of seeing no reason using protection. Or they may have the magical thinking that AIDs can’t affect them. These men are not stupid. These men are sexually naive. Whatever their chronological age, their sexual maturity and knowledge stopped, for all practical purposes, when they crossed the threshold of the seminary. This becomes their death sentence.

    According to he statistics available, at least half of the priests now in ministry are gay. This may be the largest unprotected pool of HIV-endangered men in the country. It required over 20 years of intensive public health education efforts to slow the progression of AIDs through the US gay community. Because of that success, the informational support systems that saved so many lives has been dismantled. Since the hierarchy hides the infected priests, the others may think that AIDs is not a problem among the clergy. There is an additional danger of immigrant priests from countries where the AIDs epidemic ravishes the population. The virus can remain dormant in the human host for years. It can be transmitted in one act of unprotected sex.

    This posting will not sit well with those who still believe the crisis of predator priests is an attempt by the apostate media to destroy the Church. Or by those who believe that their priest are as untouched as the plaster statutes of virginal saints. Whatever the level of comfort is needed by those in the pew, the overriding and compassionate need is to educate and to provide care to those are vulnerable to becoming infected. And to support the families of those loved ones who become infected and die. They carry a very heavy cross in a world of illusions and secrets.

    These priests are good men. They have dedicated their lives to the service of the People of God. We, the People of God need to serve them better. There are too many Pats dying out there.

    Even Billy Graham’s Grandson Has Congregational Problems.

    During its founder’s time, Coral Ridge Presbyterian Church was a bastion of Christian fundamentalism and politically active conservative Christianity.

    Then D. James Kennedy died and a new pastor was called – Tullian Tchividjian. Who better than the grandson of Billy Graham to step into this conservative, fundamentalist pulpit. Then the power brokers in the congregation started their criticism of the new pastor. The reasons? The worse. He changed the music.

    As so the congregational faction started their attacks. Reverend Tchividjian started preaching Christianity and not political activism. He “rejected politics as the most important way to change the country.” A letter was circulated by the small group of powerful dissenters calling or his removal from the church’s pulpit. He was charged with being “a disaster,” a pastor who showed a “a complete lack of respect” and whose
    “grievous missteps” undermined the church’s foundation. In the course of months, the original group of six calling or the pastor’s stole gained enough support to call a congressional meeting.

    This is a situation challengers the minister’s self-worth, confidence and credibility, Questions circle. What do I have faith in? Where do I go from here? Am I hearing my call correctly? Certainly, there were the personal attacks and whispered innuendos concerning his family. More certainly, he received no support or a confidential outlet for his frustrations.

    The congregational meeting eventually voted overwhelmingly to retain him. But over 400 members have started up an alternative congregation – a move that will have financial implications and will pave the way for long-term legal struggles over ownership of the facilities.

    And still, no word of denominational support for this minister under fire – a minister in crisis, a very public crisis.

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    Fellowship and Sermon Prep

    Over a cup of coffee, a few ministers gather. Though they are of different denominations, they all share a set of common lectionary readings. After a few minutes to settle into their chairs, someone starts a prayer. The 3 members of the group read one of the readings. The rest of the time, the readings are discussed. First, going around in a circle so each has a time to mull over the readings aloud and then as a free-wheeling group discussion. When the time is up, the group participates in the closing prayer and benediction.

    Pastors are starting up these small groups. Some meet one a month, some more frequently. The structure of the meeting is different for each group, structured to meet their needs. The mechanics of the time together is not to do all things in good order. It is a time to gather with others for a time of prayer with peers. At the end of the time together, they are refreshed and have a few sermon ideas. Starting a group may be slow in the beginning. Unfortunately, the body of believers has been fractured over time for various reasons. Once a group does start, it grows and sustains itself through member comings and goings – new ministry calls and retirements.

    Ask around. There may be a group already meeting near you. Or make a few phone calls and get the coffee ready!

    An Ancient Schedule for Prayer During the Day

    By 300 C.E., the Christian community in Jerusalem has established a prayer pattern for the work day. Egeria, an early Church Mother, described this practice in a letter (c.380 CE). back to her community in Constantinople. This tradition continues in Orthodox faith traditions among the clerics and in monasteries throughout the world.  For the busy pastor, it gives each workday a undergirding prayer structure. Although you do not have the time to spend an hour in prayer at each “prayer break,” Take a moment’s pause, breathe deeply, look out your window and recall the goodness of the Lord.

    Up to trying something daring? If you are with someone or in a meeting, invite those with you to join in your prayer break.

    Here the ancient Christian daily prayer schedule that Egeria reported:

    • Martins: “When the cock crows” Or when the alarm clock goes off. A time to bless the day and those hearts you will meet.
    • Sext: “The sixth hour” Or your 10AM coffee break. A time of thanksgiving for work accomplished and a time to bless the frustrations.
    • None: “The ninth hour.” Or 3 PM. A time of remembrance for those who are going through their own dark hour of the cross. Listen to the small voice calling to your spirit. Is there someone the Spirit is calling you to offer a phone call of encouragement? It need not be a long conversation. It is amazing what a brief word of compassion can accomplish.
    • Vespers: “Now the light is not introduced from without, but it is brought forth from within. . .”* Or at twilight. As the lights come on, reflect upon this day of grace. Recall all those who have come into your life and all those who you have served. Have those in your household share a kiss of Shalom (a blessing of health and wholeness.)

    * Egeria, XXIV 3

      Christmas in July

      It’s summer. It’s hot. Most congregational business slows down to an almost full stop. Things won’t start up again to the rush of September. Then comes the frantic weeks of Advent and the celebrations surrounding Christmas. So celebrate Christmas in July this year and give yourself an early present of time. What can you do during this Christmas in July season to lift some of the time pressures of December? Write your Christmas services sermons. You may need to do some preparation. If a Christmas creche is in your tradition, set up yours as you read the second chapter of Luke. As each participant enters the story, place the figurine into the stable. Find that child-like joy in your spirit. Play your favorite Christmas music. You will be surprised how this music is too beautiful to be slotted for play once a year. Light a cinnamon scented candle. Think snow, woollen mittens, puffs of frozen breath clouds. If your denomination uses the Lectionary, read the Advent passages for this year. Outline your sermon concepts. Then start writing. Yes, much can happen in the next 5 months, but it is easier to edit than to start. If you like to write your sermons out long-hand. Make a copy and give it to your office assistant or spouse. Put the original in your private files. If you strictly a word-processor person, copy your work onto 2 discs. You can make Christmas in July a family event. Make a small batch of cookies. Have everyone help. Without the pressures of the season, make messes and have fun. Without the commercial distractions, celebrate the spiritual Christmas. Everyone does acts of love during December. Do something as a family in July. So, go and have yourself a merry little July Christmas now. Wishing you Christmas peace and joy hristmas in July It’s summer. It’s h ot. Most congregational business slows down to an almost full stop. Things won’t start up again to the rush of September. Then comes the frantic weeks of Advent and the celebrations surrounding Christmas. So celebrate Christmas in July this year and give yourself an early present of time. What can you do during this Christmas in July season to lift some of the time pressures of December? Write your Christmas services sermons. You may need to do some preparation. If a Christmas creche is in your tradition, set up yours as you read the second chapter of Luke. As each participant enters the story, place the figurine into the stable. Find that child-like joy in your spirit. Play your favorite Christmas music. You will be surprised how this music is too beautiful to be slotted for play once a year. Light a cinnamon scented candle. Think snow, woollen mittens, puffs of frozen breath clouds. If your denomination uses the Lectionary, read the Advent passages for this year. Outline your sermon concepts. Then start writing. Yes, much can happen in the next 5 months, but it is easier to edit than to start. If you like to write your sermons out long-hand. Make a copy and give it to your office assistant or spouse. Put the original in your private files. If you strictly a word-processor person, copy your work onto 2 discs. You can make Christmas in July a family event. Make a small batch of cookies. Have everyone help. Without the pressures of the season, make messes and have fun. Without the commercial distractions, celebrate the spiritual Christmas. Everyone does acts of love during December. Do something as a family in July. So, go and have yourself a merry little July Christmas now. Wishing you Christmas peace and joy

      Time Management

      Sometimes we say we are “multitasking,” but what we are doing is jumping from task to task doing a bit here and a bit there. Then there are the distractions: the phone, the office ASAP tasks, family matters, a building “emergency. We are trying to put 28 hours into a 24 hour bag. And that is not counting for such necessities such as eating , sleep and other sundry activities nature requires of all.

      The time management masters do not seem to come up to looking at the current advantages of a wired, multitasking society. One of the classic time management systems traces back to the 1920s. This .tool recommended to make a list of 6 important tasks the night before. The next day one is to work each task to completion before starting the next task on the list. That evening one is to make another 6 item prioritized list. If you can lock yourself away from time-robbing critical intrusions. this would work.

      Instead, one way is to look as time as a resource. (I didn’t want to say “see time as money.” ) In the 1930′s, the Italian economist Vilfredo Pareto discovered the Pareto Principle. In time management, this would say that 80% of your efforts only produces 20% of the wanted results. The key to time management is to better spend that 80%!

      To better use that 80%, try mindful focus. Make that task list by priority. Instead of working each item to completion, recognize that you will be interrupted. When an interruption occurs, assign it a time value: 5 minutes, 10 minutes, whatever. Get a small quiet timer and set it for the urgency value of the task. Do just enough to get the urgency under control. When the time is up, go back to the task you were working on. It will be hard to break away from the interruption and return. The interruption is exciting and different. The task you were working on does not have that brain chemical rush.

      A Prayer for the Walk from the Car to the Door

      We rush about and are surrounded by the spirituality that can be found outside the door. Here is how poet e.e. cummings prayed this.

      i thank You God for most this amazing
      day:for the leaping greenly spirits of trees
      and a blue true dream of sky;and for everything
      which is natural which is infinite which is yes(i who have died am alive again today,
      and this is the sun’s birthday;this is the birth
      day of life and love and wings:and of the gay
      great happening illimitably earth)

      how should tasting touching hearing seeing
      breathing any–lifted from the no
      of all nothing–human merely being
      doubt unimaginable You?

      (now the ears of my ears awake and
      now the eyes of my eyes are opened)


      ~.e.e. cummings

      Refreshing at the Well

      Burned out. Dried up. Running on empty. Going through the motions.

      Ministers spend the day pouring out themselves in the ministry of health and wholeness for others. Their inner talents and lives are spent in the service of others. But one’s internal reservoir is not boundless. The spirit can become weary and exhausted.

      Growing and nurturing the spirit within taps into the great stream of living water promised by Jesus to the woman at the well and a symbol of re-birth and life in almost all faith traditions and cultures.

      Working like a dog? Pause to drink from the Living Water.